My Desire Map Experience: A Fresh Way To Make 2014 Feel Oh, So, Good.

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Have you heard of SMART goal-setting? It’s when you choose a goal and articulate it so that it’s specific, measurable, actionable, realistic, and time-bound. A real example from my past is, “I will rock (actionable) my new Lucky Brand jeans (specific) by April 21, 2012 (time-bound, realistic and measurable).” Many, many consistently “successful” people use SMART goal-setting. It’s more effective than saying, “I’m going to eat better this year.”

I used to swear by SMART goal-setting. Used to.

The Desire Map

This year I’m getting down with The Desire Map, a brilliant idea brought to life by Danielle LaPorte. The Desire Map is all about identifying your desired feelings — what you want to feel — before you set any goals and intentions. Danielle says that we have the procedures of achievement (like SMART goal-setting) upside down. We come up with to-do lists, bucket lists, strategic plans, and goals to get us external things. Our aims are driven by an innate desire to feel a certain way. We hope that when we get these external results, then we finally feel what we hoped we would feel.

Introducing Desire

Why would you work for days, weeks, months or years to finally feel a certain way? Why not plan your life so that you feel how you want to feel every single freaking day?

Danielle says, “I don’t have hard goals anymore… I have all-consuming desires and intentions that drive me daily.” She says that generating your core desired feelings is “the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.”

Everything We Do

I don’t know about you, but I want to feel my desired feelings all the time. I bought her program as an early Christmas present to myself. I spent the last couple days in my haven (beautifully decorated office) digging into all the truth and wisdom in her book. Without a doubt, it was the best New Years I have ever had. Getting clear on what I really want, answering some powerful questions, feeling creative and vulnerable is exactly what I needed to begin the new year with empowered focus.

My Core Desired Feelings on display to remind me daily to go after what I want to feel.  This took hours to contemplate but it was worth it. My goals for the year are based on achieving these feelings daily.
My Core Desired Feelings are on display in my office. It reminds me to create and align my goals appropriately. The goal or intention must match the desired feeling. I contemplated for hours. Sometimes what I thought I wanted, I actually didn’t. Danielle says this is common and it is totally normal. I’m open to change, but feeling certain about where my heart is with this. I’m expecting this year to be the best one yet.



Reflection on 2013

I am excited that 2013 is over. While it was the most difficult year I may have ever had, it was full of beautiful personal growth. Resilience, Vulnerability, and Love were big themes. I launched my website with a blog, and a Facebook page. I spoke on “What We Eat and How We Think” at the Illinois Counseling Association’s annual conference with Tina Musselman.

Presenting at the ICA Conference in November.
Presenting at the ICA Conference in November.

Additionally, I gave my home a big makeover by creating a beautiful office space with two new pieces of furniture. I’m in love with that room. I did a LifeClass with Oprah and Brene Brown to open up my heart and be okay with being imperfect. I read some books that had a big impact on me, had a professional photo shoot (Erin Stefanik Photography), and had many, many compassionate conversations about life. (Thank you especially to Mom, Maria and Jen.)

I did this as part of an online class with Oprah and Brene Brown. Powerful.
I did this as part of an online class with Oprah and Brene Brown. Powerful.



2014: What’s in it for you?

I am focusing (focus is one of my core desired feelings is focus) on my own business this year, while continuing to work at Trader Joe’s. In December, I left Fit Code, where I worked for the last two years. I was officially done on December 31. I will be writing on this blog at least 4 days a week so you may continue to read more about nutrition, food, eating, transformation, personal growth, fitness, and others’ personal stories. Again, the purpose of the blog is to help you transform your body and mind by creating a healthier relationship with food and fitness.

I am focusing hard on doing grocery store tours and speaking at events and businesses in the Chicagoland area in 2014. I also have plenty of other ideas that are marinating.

What do you need or want from me? If you have any opportunities, ideas, or advice for me, please share.


Happy New Year!



More information on Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map here.